The Matchmaker

One day, the Baal Shem Tov called Elimelech into his study for a serious talk. "You have now come of age. It is time for you to think of marriage…

11 min

Rabbi Tzvi Meir Cohn

Posted on 14.04.23

"Go and take a wife for my son. . . ." Genesis 24:4

 
And then there was the time that Reb Shmuel, a wealthy man and ardent chossid of the Baal Shem Tov came to visit his Rebbe, as he did several times every year. Usually, his wife Chana encouraged these visits. But this time her parting words were, "It is the same story each time you go. You promise me that you will ask the Rebbe to give us a blessing for children. But you always return with some excuse like he didn't pay you any attention or told you he'd see you later or you forgot to mention it to him. Isn't it enough that you give a fortune of charity to the needy at his court and to the Rebbe himself for any cause he suggests? Let the Rebbe do something for you just once. If you don't come back this time with news that he gave us a blessing to have children, I will divorce you."
 
So the entire time Reb Shmuel was in Mezibush visiting the Rebbe he had a heavy heart. How could he ask the Baal Shem Tov for a blessing as his wife required? Nevertheless, just before he left, he apologetically asked the Rebbe for a blessing for children.
The Baal Shem Tov looked at him for a long time. Then he responded, "I will give you a blessing to have a son. But I want you to know that you can only have a child on the condition that you agree to lose all of your wealth. Also, after the child begins school, you will leave him with me to be raised in my house."

"What good does my money do me if there is no one to inherit it afterwards?" he sighed. "Yes. I would rather have a son than riches."

"But your wife must also agree to your choice. Go home and tell her my offer."

Reb Shmuel rushed home with the good news. When he told her the condition about losing wealth she replied, "Shmuel, I agree with what you told the Rebbe. I would rather have a son than our money. As to the child being raised in the house of the Baal Shem Tov, what more could one ask for their child?"

 
Reb Shmuel returned to the Baal Shem Tov and told him he and his wife agreed to the conditions.
 
The Baal Shem Tov had additional instructions for Shmuel. "When you return home, you will learn that a huge fire has wiped you out financially both in business and at home. Your wife will shortly become pregnant and you will both be forced to wander with the other homeless beggars from town to town in search of food and a roof over your heads. When your wife is in her last months of pregnancy, you can both come to me. I will provide a room in my house until she gives birth."
When Reb Shmuel returned home, he was not surprised to learn that his house and business had burned down. He wasn't the slightest bit upset, because it was all foretold by the Baal Shem Tov. Soon, his wife Chana discovered that she was pregnant. By this time, they were already wandering from village to village and begging from door to door. When Chana was late in her pregnancy and found it difficult to continue traveling, she remembered that the Baal Shem Tov said they could move into his house. "It's time we go to the Baal Shem Tov. He promised to provide us with food and lodgings until I gave birth."
 
When they arrived in Mezibush, the Baal Shem Tov greeted them and took them to a room he had already set aside. Then he told them, "Reb Shmuel you can remain here with your wife until she has given birth and the bris has been performed. Then you must return to your travels and begging. Your wife can remain here for the next three years until the child is weaned and ready to begin school. Then I will send her to you. The child will remain here with me and I will raise him as my own son."
 
The couple was overjoyed to think that their son would be raised by such a holy godfather and that he would surely grow up to be a tzadik himself.
Several weeks passed and a son was born. He was named Elimelech at the bris. Within the week, Shmuel told Chana and little Elimelech good-bye and set forth on his travels.
Three years passed swiftly and it was Chana's turn to leave. She thanked the Baal Shem Tov for all his kindness and went to join her husband.

Little Elimelech grew up in the Baal Shem Tov's household. From the time he began school at three years old, he showed amazing aptitude. His quick and perceptive mind understood and retained everything he was taught and before long he was known as an iluy-genius. The years sped by and Elimelech turned eighteen.

One day, the Baal Shem Tov called Elimelech into his study for a serious talk. "You have now come of age. It is time for you to think of marriage. I want you to go to the small village on the other side of the river. Find the sofer (scribe) that lives there and tell him that I sent you and that I want you to marry his daughter. Then tell him that I want him to come here to Mezibush immediately so that we can draw up the engagement contract."
 
Elimelech did not hesitate following his Rebbe's instructions. He went straight to the village and was directed a broken down, one room hut that was the sofer's home. He knocked on the door and was invited in by the sofer's wife. She explained that her husband was at the synagogue and would soon return.
 
Elimelech sat down to wait. He looked over the meager surroundings. In one corner sat a young girl of thirteen wearing a dress made of patches. She was introduced to him as their only daughter Malka.
"Is this my intended bride? he wondered.
Elimelech knew that for the past year, his godfather, the Baal Shem Tov, had received countless offers of large dowries by prospective father-in-laws. But the Baal Shem Tov had refused them all. Elimelech saw that his intended wife obviously did not have riches. But Elimelech would not question the Baal Shem Tov's judgment in any way. He just sat patiently, waiting for the sofer to return.
After an hour passed, the elderly sofer entered the room. Elimelech stood up and explained that the Baal Shem Tov had sent him to arrange a marriage with his daughter. At first the sofer thought it was amusing that the Baal Shem Tov would send someone to marry his Malka. After all, she was only thirteen and they didn't have any money for a wedding. None the less, the sofer agreed to go to the Baal Shem Tov with Elimelech.
The Baal Shem Tov greeted the sofer and Elimech very warmly. They sat down and drew up the marriage contract. Then the Baal Shem Tov gave the future father-in-law enough money to outfit his daughter for the coming wedding and the date was set.
With the Baal Shem Tov making the wedding, everyone came. All of his Chassidim made sure not to miss this joyous event celebrating the wedding of the Baal Shem Tov's own God-son. Hundreds of people sat around the festive tables. Everyone could not help wondering about the strange choice the Baal Shem Tov had made for his adopted son. The bride did not have wealth or a good family name. Why then had the Rebbe over looked the wonderful offers he had been made for Elimelech?
Right before the saying of the seven blessings after the wedding meal, the Baal Shem Tov struck the table with his hand for attention. "I have a story to tell you, my honored guests."
 
And he began, "Many, many years ago, there lived a mighty king. He and his queen had only one son that they loved dearly. The boy was blessed with a brilliant mind. The more he studied, the more he wanted to know. He took an interest in every area of knowledge and before long had learned all that his teachers could offer. He sought out all the scholars in the kingdom and before long there was nothing more they could teach him.
 
The prince explained to his father the king, "I have explored all the wisdom that can he learned in this country." "I would like to travel to other countries and learn knowledge taught there. Will you please give me a carriage, a servant, and enough money for me to take an extended journey?"
 
The king and queen soon saw it was useless arguing with their son and they finally gave in to his request. They outfitted him with a carriage, horses, a servant and a chest full of money. Then they tearfully let him go out into the world.

Starting with bordering country the young prince visited the universities and houses of learning, absorbing anything that was new to him. And so he went from one country to the next and then the next.

 
Meanwhile his supply of funds was dwindling. When his money was gone he was forced to sell his servant, then his horses and finally, his royal carriage. He was undaunted, however, for it was a small sum to pay for knowledge. Finally, he found himself penniless, walking along a snow covered road. He was cold and hungry and was hoping for a sign of civilization, for someone who might have pity on him and take him in for the night.
 
The prince walked on for three days, deeper into a thick forest, not meeting a soul all the while. When he was at the end of his endurance, he raised his eyes heavenward and exclaimed, "I firmly believe in the Creator of heaven and earth. It is He Who watches over me and guides my steps. Only He can save me now from death. Please, dear G·d, listen to my prayer and let me live."

Suddenly, he saw a light flickering in the distance. "Who can possibly be living in the midst of this desolate forest?" he wondered. "Most probably some robbers. But even they may have some pity upon a freezing, starving harmless young man." The prince mustered up his last ounce of strength and made it to the house. He knocked weakly on the door.

 
It was immediately opened by an old man who bade the prince come in. The prince told him his sad tale and begged for a warm drink. The old man bustled about preparing a warm meal which the prince attacked with much gusto. When he had eaten his fill, he was given a place to sleep.
 
The prince lay down and sighed in utter contentment and was about to fall asleep in utter exhaustion.
 
Having provided for his guest, the old man opened up a large volume of Talmud and began to study in a singsong chant, soon becoming oblivious to his surroundings. The prince, who had been about to fall asleep, felt his fatigue melt away. After all the years he had spent in study, all the countries he had visited and all the languages he had learned, he had never come across anything like what the old man was studying. His mind quickened with interest and he jumped out of bed.
"What is that you are studying?" he asked his host eagerly.
"I am learning the Torah which was given to my people at Mount Sinai," the old man explained briefly.
 
"Please, teach me. I want to learn Torah too," the prince begged.
"I cannot teach you Torah," the old Jew explained. "You are not Jewish."
"Then let me convert. I would like to become a Jew right now," said the prince.

"But that is impossible. You must wait at least until tomorrow," the Jew smiled at his eagerness. "Tomorrow I will call together a quorum of men. Then you can be circumcised and purify yourself in the mikveh. Afterwards you can begin to study Torah."

 
The prince went back to bed, disappointed. He found that he was too excited to fall asleep and he stayed awake that entire night in anticipation of his conversion.
 
"How could the old man, living in a deep forest, manage to round up a minyan?" the Baal Shem Tov asked his listeners. "I will tell you who the nine other men were. They were none other than our seven Shepherds – the Avraham, Yitchak, Yakov, Yosef, Moshe, Aharon and King David. They were joined by two of Yakov's sons."
After the circumcision was performed, the prince went into a mikveh and he was pronounced a Jew. All the guests sat down to a festive meal after which they disappeared into the forest.
 
The young prince did not wait until he was healed. He launched into the study of aleph bais, which he mastered with ease, and then into Chumash, Mishnah and before long was deep into Talmud. The prince did not approach his Jewish studies as he had pursued science and philosophy in the secular world. The old Jew inculcated him with a fear of G·d and piety; the more he learned, the more pious and righteous he became. By the year's end, the prince had become an accomplished Torah scholar, well versed in all the aspects of Jewish knowledge.
 
When the old man felt secure that he would remain thus, he called the young man to him. "The time has come," he said, "for you to return home to your parents, the king and queen. I have obtained your horses and carriage and your servant as well. Take them and go home to assume the throne. You need not give up your Jewish way of life. You must remain hidden a righteous man whose greatness is not a recognized by others."
 
It was hard for the prince to leave this utopian way of life, delving into the study he loved, but he heeded his mentor and returned home. His father had lost hope of ever being reunited with his only beloved son. When he saw him standing before his very eyes, he could not contain his joy.

The young prince had one request to make of his father. "Having traveled extensively all around the world," he explained, "I have changed my mode of living. I need my own residence. Could I have my own palace built to my requirements?" There was nothing that the elderly king would not do for his son and this request was a mere trifle. The king ordered a team of workers to follow the prince's own blueprint and the latter soon had a royal residence of his own where he could do what he wanted without being observed by curious eyes.

 
The prince now arranged for ten Torah scholars and their families to come and inhabit permanent quarters within the palace. He also maintained a staff of his own mohel and shochet. And no one outside the palace walls was aware that the young prince was actually a practicing Jew.
 
At this time, the old king learned that a neighboring monarch was preparing to wage war against him. Having lived all his life in peace, the old king was afraid of battle and untutored in the strategies of war. He called his wise son to him, seeking his advice.
"You have nothing to fear, dear father," the prince hastened to reassure the king. "I will lead our people in battle. I trust that some of my accumulated wisdom will be of use to us."
 
The young prince fought bravely and cleverly, easily winning an important victory for his people. When the vanquished king was brought before the prince, he had one request to make of the victor. 'I am at your mercy now. My land and everything that I own is yours. Do me the great kindness of taking my daughter for a wife so that you can both rule our two countries together."

He thought about the suggestion and then said, "I would like to speak to the princess first." He was taken to the princess and asked to talk to her alone. "I am a Jew," the prince confessed to her. "I live in my own palace and keep all the practices and customs of the Jews. If you wish to marry me, you must agree to accept my way of life and become a Jewess yourself." The princess looked at the handsome young prince and thought of the kingdom he was offering her. Her choice was obvious. When he heard her answer, the prince instructed the young girl to go to a Jewish settlement where she could be properly converted and learn the laws that pertained to her new role as wife and future Jewish mother. The marriage was held upon her return. The royal couple went to live in the prince's palace where they could practice their Judaism in privacy. They lived out their days in modesty and piety, rearing children that became Torah scholars. And they were always mindful of their Jewish brethren, helping whenever the opportunity offered. When the two converts arrived at the heavenly court, it was assumed that they would be delegated to Gan Eden, having practiced all the mitzvos religiously for all of their converted lives as exemplary Jews. But just as they were being led to their place, a prosecuting angel rushed up. "Wait!" he shouted. "These two people are not eligible for Gan Eden. They were born and lived many years of their life as non-Jews. It is not fitting that they be admitted to the dwelling place of the most righteous tzadikim." The heavenly court was forced to admit that the angel had a point. There was only one thing to do; that was to send the two souls down to earth once again to make amends for their shortcoming. In their new life on earth they would be born as Jews. "And now you understand, most honored guests," the Baal Shem Tov concluded, "why our bride and groom make such a fitting match. They are none other than the king and queen of our story. Even their names – Elimelech and Malka – point to that. And so, chosson and callah, we wish you many happy years together in this life as in the world-to-come. Mazel Tov!"

 
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Tzvi Meir Cohn attended Yeshiva Hadar Hatorah in Crown Heights, Brooklyn after completing his university studies in Engineering and Law. While studying at the Yeshiva, he discovered a deep connection to the stories and teachings of the Baal Shem Tov. His many books about the Baal Shem Tov can be found on Amazon. He can be contacted at howard@cohnpatents.com.
 
 

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