Exactly!

Dassie i am sad that society compelled you to leave your baby and have a difficult life! I understand your story as an example of todaýs lies and inverted values!

Dassie i am sad that society compelled you to leave your baby and have a difficult life! I understand your story as an example of todaýs lies and inverted values!

You can see clearly!

The ball is and will drop

The ball is and will drop

I’m with Anne….

I happen to love being with babies (although I understand why some women don't enjoy being with babies). Despite being college-educated and fairly social at the time, I was surprised to discover with my first child how much I enjoyed being with a baby and how interesting & fulfulling a baby is to be with. Yet other women I respected really pressured me to get a job, insisting that my contentment was actually an unhealthy sign — being "overattached" or something like that, I suppose. Yes, I needed something to read or a friend to talk to at some point in my day (both of which were possible in my area) in addition to the baby, but in general, I wasn't going out of my mind or feeling unfulfilled. Finally, the only job I could manage to get was a boring job with a long commute and needed to deal with all the stress of getting the baby AND me ready in the morning, getting the baby to daycare, getting to work on time, then coming to pick up the baby on time, then getting home and dealing with all the domestic tasks, then making sure that somehow the baby and I got to bed on time to do the whole thing all over again. Then those same people criticized me for being unhappy in that stressful, unfulfilling situation. (And even with the job, I still needed something to read and a friend to chat with at some point during my day because that is just my personality, so the job did nothing for me, except to make me feel more bored and unhappy.) Yeah, I understand why some women actually like to go off to work and don't feel overwhelmed by combining motherhood and work (especially if they have a likeable job & a better commute), but I find it bizarre that those of us with a natural affinity for babies and for being homebodies are considered dysfunctional in some way. Luckily, I finally found a rebbetzin who, despite having worked happily & successfully at prestige jobs, always stayed home with her kids until they were 2 or 3 — and she did so happily because she truly enjoys babies, too! Look, if someone has a colicky baby or lacks a natural affinity for babies or feels cooped up when at home, I understand her. I'm just saying that those of us who DON'T experience babies that way shouldn't be treated like there is something wrong with us. But like Anne said, it's part of the "crazy" society we are in.

I happen to love being with babies (although I understand why some women don't enjoy being with babies). Despite being college-educated and fairly social at the time, I was surprised to discover with my first child how much I enjoyed being with a baby and how interesting & fulfulling a baby is to be with. Yet other women I respected really pressured me to get a job, insisting that my contentment was actually an unhealthy sign — being "overattached" or something like that, I suppose. Yes, I needed something to read or a friend to talk to at some point in my day (both of which were possible in my area) in addition to the baby, but in general, I wasn't going out of my mind or feeling unfulfilled. Finally, the only job I could manage to get was a boring job with a long commute and needed to deal with all the stress of getting the baby AND me ready in the morning, getting the baby to daycare, getting to work on time, then coming to pick up the baby on time, then getting home and dealing with all the domestic tasks, then making sure that somehow the baby and I got to bed on time to do the whole thing all over again. Then those same people criticized me for being unhappy in that stressful, unfulfilling situation. (And even with the job, I still needed something to read and a friend to chat with at some point during my day because that is just my personality, so the job did nothing for me, except to make me feel more bored and unhappy.) Yeah, I understand why some women actually like to go off to work and don't feel overwhelmed by combining motherhood and work (especially if they have a likeable job & a better commute), but I find it bizarre that those of us with a natural affinity for babies and for being homebodies are considered dysfunctional in some way. Luckily, I finally found a rebbetzin who, despite having worked happily & successfully at prestige jobs, always stayed home with her kids until they were 2 or 3 — and she did so happily because she truly enjoys babies, too! Look, if someone has a colicky baby or lacks a natural affinity for babies or feels cooped up when at home, I understand her. I'm just saying that those of us who DON'T experience babies that way shouldn't be treated like there is something wrong with us. But like Anne said, it's part of the "crazy" society we are in.

Let´s make a team of crazy folks!!!

This is surely one of your best and "mad" articles Rivka!!! You Forget to tell you are mad since you pût your family before your career! I completely agrée with you i also feel completely mad because i take full care of my family instead of going out the whole day! You didńt mention as an example the rabbanites who give advice on family but are never at home in the evening with their kids and husbands since they give shiurim on…. Hinuh and chalom bayit!!!a world of cheker we live in!

This is surely one of your best and "mad" articles Rivka!!! You Forget to tell you are mad since you pût your family before your career! I completely agrée with you i also feel completely mad because i take full care of my family instead of going out the whole day! You didńt mention as an example the rabbanites who give advice on family but are never at home in the evening with their kids and husbands since they give shiurim on…. Hinuh and chalom bayit!!!a world of cheker we live in!