are there limits — what about intermarriage? Thank you for the wonderful article! I just have one question. Are there limits? For example, let's say your child wants to marry a non-Jew, Heaven forbid. Should we raise our children with the understanding that they will be disinherited if they do this? Should we threaten to cut off contact with them if they do this? Thank G-d, I am not dealing with this problem, but I want to raise my children so that intermarriage is unthinkable (even though here in the US it is considered normal), and it seems like making it clear to them this is a red line — by threatening to disinherit them — is a reasonable thing to do. I do not think I would tell them I would cut off all contact with them. That would seem to contradict your argument in the article. But threatening to disinherit them seems like it might be potentially compatible with your approach, because it does not mean we need to cease having a loving and caring attitude or stop being on peaceful terms with them. What do you think?
2. Yishai
11/07/2011
Thank you for the wonderful article! I just have one question. Are there limits? For example, let's say your child wants to marry a non-Jew, Heaven forbid. Should we raise our children with the understanding that they will be disinherited if they do this? Should we threaten to cut off contact with them if they do this? Thank G-d, I am not dealing with this problem, but I want to raise my children so that intermarriage is unthinkable (even though here in the US it is considered normal), and it seems like making it clear to them this is a red line — by threatening to disinherit them — is a reasonable thing to do. I do not think I would tell them I would cut off all contact with them. That would seem to contradict your argument in the article. But threatening to disinherit them seems like it might be potentially compatible with your approach, because it does not mean we need to cease having a loving and caring attitude or stop being on peaceful terms with them. What do you think?
11/07/2011
are there limits — what about intermarriage? Thank you for the wonderful article! I just have one question. Are there limits? For example, let's say your child wants to marry a non-Jew, Heaven forbid. Should we raise our children with the understanding that they will be disinherited if they do this? Should we threaten to cut off contact with them if they do this? Thank G-d, I am not dealing with this problem, but I want to raise my children so that intermarriage is unthinkable (even though here in the US it is considered normal), and it seems like making it clear to them this is a red line — by threatening to disinherit them — is a reasonable thing to do. I do not think I would tell them I would cut off all contact with them. That would seem to contradict your argument in the article. But threatening to disinherit them seems like it might be potentially compatible with your approach, because it does not mean we need to cease having a loving and caring attitude or stop being on peaceful terms with them. What do you think?
11/07/2011
Thank you for the wonderful article! I just have one question. Are there limits? For example, let's say your child wants to marry a non-Jew, Heaven forbid. Should we raise our children with the understanding that they will be disinherited if they do this? Should we threaten to cut off contact with them if they do this? Thank G-d, I am not dealing with this problem, but I want to raise my children so that intermarriage is unthinkable (even though here in the US it is considered normal), and it seems like making it clear to them this is a red line — by threatening to disinherit them — is a reasonable thing to do. I do not think I would tell them I would cut off all contact with them. That would seem to contradict your argument in the article. But threatening to disinherit them seems like it might be potentially compatible with your approach, because it does not mean we need to cease having a loving and caring attitude or stop being on peaceful terms with them. What do you think?