Meant To Be

description of book Incredible shidduchim stories about real people and events, past and present. With halachic questions and anecdotes. “‘You have two problems: You have a daughter who needs to get married, and she’s a top girl.’ I smiled, but I didn’t agree. True, a top girl sometimes has a harder time in shidduchim, but why not be optimistic?” “Sometimes a person thinks to himself, Who will want someone with a scar? Who will marry someone my age? Why did HaKadosh Baruch Hu do this to me? This person doesn’t understand that everything that his Father in Heaven does for him is only a kindness and a mercy. It was specifically because of his scar that the bachur merited finding his special zivug who was waiting for him…” “A date was arranged. Then a second and a third. A few weeks later the shadchan was invited to the vort. When she entered the room, she was shocked when she saw who the kallah was–it was the older sister, not the younger sister whom she’d had in mind when she suggested the shidduch!” “As she waited for the storm to pass, she was reminded of the waiting inherent in the process of shidduchim. Waiting for your bashert. Waiting for the chasunah. Waiting to start a new life. Waiting and waiting for the right time… A rebellious tear slid, unbidden, down her cheek. How much longer must she wait?” We are living in a time of hester panim, when Hashem’s providence is hidden from us. It’s often hard to see how at every single moment everything is being orchestrated by Him, even though we know it’s true. Yet there is one area, one time in a person’s life, when Hashem’s hashgachah can be seen openly, when one can palpably feel that Hashem is with him, orchestrating events. That area is shidduchim. When it comes to finding one’s zivug, one’s soul mate, there is no doubt: only HaKadosh Baruch Hu could have brought about the sequence of events that led to the creation of another bayis ne’eman b’Yisrael.