Vayechi: Happiness!

What does it mean that being happy is a choice, and how do we choose happiness, when the circumstances of our lives are so negative, and so difficult?

4 min

Moshe Neveloff

Posted on 03.01.20

"Yaakov lived in the land of Egypt seventeen years; and the days of Yaakov – the years of his life – were one hundred and forty-seven years" (Chapter 47, Verse 28). The Sages teach in the Midrash Rabba, as well as in the Holy Zohar, that the final seventeen years of Yaakovs life were the golden years of his life because he lived in happiness and comfort. Rabbi Natan of Breslev asks a question on this Midrash: Its hard to understand that when Yaakov dwelled in the land of Israel he didnt dwell in tranquility, but when he lived the last years of his life in the impure land of Egypt, he did live with tranquility and even deeper Torah learning than he previously enjoyed. How is this possible?

 

This question can be explained by the verse in the prophet Isaiah, "they will attain joy and gladness, and sadness and sighing will flee" (Chapter 35, Verse 10). Rebbe Nachman explains in Likutei Moharan (Part 2, Torah 23) that complete simcha (happiness) is when a person overcomes his difficulties and sadness and turns them into happiness. He is happy even when events in his life should cause him to be sad and worried. Rabbi Natan explains, based on this verse from the Prophet Isaiah, that the primary way to clarify matters of holiness and redeem them from the Chamber of Exchange (see below) is through simcha, and specifically by turning sadness and depression into joy.

 

Even with all of the different exiles which the Jewish people have experienced, the main expression of exile is in the soul – that the Jewish soul is far from its Father in Heaven, and it feels sadness because of this. This is the aspect of the brotherssale of Yosef to Egypt, because specifically through the difficulty and pain of his sale they were able to be sustained afterwards when they descended to Egypt, as Yosef said to his brothers, "And now, be not distressed, nor reproach yourselves for having sold me here, for it was to be a provider that G-d sent me ahead of you" (Chapter 45, Verse 5).

 

Eventually Yaakov and all of his sons descended to dwell in Egypt, and specifically there he was able to dwell in happiness and tranquility. Yaakov understood after he went to live in Egypt that the final redemption will also involve this test of revealing holiness and lifting up the Jewish souls which have fallen into all kinds of exile. The Tzaddikim, like Yaakov and Yosef, have the power to turn exile and pain into happiness and joy. They can help people, with their advice and the strength of their holiness, to turn everything around for the best, despite the bad forces which want to turn truth into lies and happiness into sadness (Likutei Halachot, Laws of Blessings on Smell and Thanksgiving, 6th teaching).

 

By being in a state of happiness, we can return to Hashem and reveal holiness and Hashems presence in the world. Happiness is also our main source of vitality. Rebbe Nachman teaches that simcha is the world of freedom. When we are in a state of happiness, our mind is free and expanded, and we can see our reality and experiences with the light of faith and make good decisions (Likutei Moharan, Part 2, Torah 10). The big question is: How do we find the strength to overcome our nature to sink into sadness, heaviness and depression and merit to be truly happy and alive?

 

Rebbe Nachman spoke a great deal about the importance of being happy, as well as teaching a lot of different advice of how to obtain it. Firstly, we need to know that it is something we need to work on; it doesnt come automatically. It is not just a gift from Heaven. Rebbe Nachman says that we need to overcome our inclination to fall into sadness with everything we have and to make ourselves happy anyway that we can, even by doing silly things and telling jokes (Likutei Moharan, Part 2, Torah 24). Telling jokes and being silly helps us to break out of our regular patterns of behavior and social norms, which many times cause us to be too heavy and too serious. Singing and dancing can also bring us to happiness.

 

Another aspect of overcoming our nature and normal tendencies is in the world of thought. Rebbe Nachman teaches that its impossible for a person to think two thoughts at the same time (Likutei Moharan, 233). Therefore, we have the power to focus on good thoughts, on thoughts which encourage us and give us strength and faith, and to leave behind the thoughts which weaken us and distance us from happiness. Thoughts also come and go quickly, so there is no reason to wage war with them; just let them pass and try to think of things which make you happy. Remembering better times, times when we felt happy and things were going really well, can help us find happiness and strength when life feels hard and difficulties arise. Looking for and finding the good points in ourselves helps us to focus on our good deeds and the good that we are blessed with in our lives, and this can bring us to happiness. These are just a few examples of ways to increase our happiness on a daily basis and overcome the situations, thought patterns and experiences which drag us down into sadness, laziness and depression (Based on Ran Webers new book, To Be Happy, 3rd Section).

 

We should be blessed to increase the amount of happiness in our lives, and to help others find more happiness in their lives too!

The Chamber of Exchanges (Hekhal HaTeuroth) is where souls are sometimes exchanged. Rebbe Nathan writes that the Chamber of Exchanges came into existence when Adam ate from the Tree of Knowledge. It is alluded to in the Torah by the "revolving sword" (Genesis 3:24), which is more accurately translated as the "sword of transformations". This sword is the power that exchanges good and evil. See the story "The Exchanged Children" in Rabbi Nachman's Stories for further insights.

 

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Republished with permission from breslov.blog.

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